HOW DO YOU BALANCE YOUR CAREER AND MOTHERHOOD?
One of the many reasons that Rodan and Fields consultancy works for me, is that I am in charge of when I work. I find balance easier this way, because I can prioritize on my terms. Being a mother and wife are more important to me than growing an empire (right now) so I am working my business during naptime, for an hour or two on weekends when my husband is home and just in everyday conversation with new people I meet. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on life’s little joys while my son is young, yet I’m still working towards a goal.
WHAT RESOURCES DO YOU RECOMMEND THAT HAVE SIGNIFICANTLY AIDED YOU ON YOUR MOTHERHOOD JOURNEY?
We moved to the Southern US when Jackson was three weeks old. I was still high on endorphins and hormones, and when I came down from that, I was in a new country, with a newborn baby, in a hot climate, away from all friends and family. I felt isolated and deeply mourned the life I thought I would have with my mom friends in Toronto, walking the streets in the spring with our baby carriages. The best thing for us was to get out and meet other moms. We joined any mom and baby class/group/event that I could find, and being out with others was so uplifting for me.
In our subsequent moves, I’ve found the same to be true. Getting connected with the community and finding a network of mothers has been such a blessing to us.
HOW HAS YOUR CAREER WITH RODAN + FIELDS BENEFITED YOUR FAMILY?
Making the commitment to join a direct marketing business isn’t something that I ever saw for myself. In fact, I had no desire to ever be ‘one of those people’. I think that the biggest benefit (besides financial) that my family has seen since starting my own business is the personal growth that it has afforded me.
I’ve always been goal oriented, self-sufficient and a very hard worker, so my move to being a Stay At Home Mom brought up a bit of internal conflict with how I connected to myself.
I struggled with the thought of putting Jackson in childcare, finding a position with a company that would support relocation for my husband’s job and also with what being a SAHM said about me.
What R+F has shown me is that I can still be a great mom, support my husband’s career AND grow in mine. It has helped me to see that the opinion of others isn’t really my business and that I have to make the choices that work for myself and my family. I have been overwhelmed by the support I’ve received from friends, family and my new team. I’m a much happier and balanced mother and wife now that I’m pursuing my own growth and feel as though I’m financially contributing to our family’s future.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF AS A FIRST TIME MOTHER?
I would tell myself to be confident in my gut instincts. The bond that mothers have with their children is so deep that I think they tell us exactly what they need. We just need to have the courage in ourselves to listen.
WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WANTED TO BE A MOTHER?
I think I always knew that I wanted to be a mother. I just didn’t know when it would happen and I think we were waiting for the ‘perfect time’. As it turns out, while it might not have happened to plan, the timing was perfect!
WHAT HAS CHANGED FOR YOU SINCE EMBARKING ON THIS CAREER PATH?
I am now hyper aware of others who are working to build something of their own, whether it be a business, charity or event. I know the internal struggle that comes with stepping out of one’s comfort zone, so I do my best to be supportive in whatever way I can.
I’ve also had to get a bit more social media savvy, and I’m so grateful for this because it’s helped me to reestablish relationships with family and friends we’ve lost touch with in our travels.
HOW HAS MOTHERHOOD CHANGED YOUR RELATIONSHIPS / PERSPECTIVES?
Motherhood has softened me when it comes to compassion and understanding in my relationships. My capacity to love has grown infinitely and I truly feel changed in such a profound way.
I feel very connected to others’ emotions since becoming a mother. My relationships have changed in that I cherish the ones that I have so much more. We are all in different seasons of life and it’s the acceptance and understanding that I feel from my loved ones that makes me really honor our bonds.
WHAT ASPECTS OF MOTHERHOOD DO YOU FIND THE MOST CHALLENGING / REWARDING?
The most rewarding part of being a mother, to me, is hands down, feeling the love that you have for your kiddo. It’s something I have such a difficult time explaining, but each day something new happens and I love him a bit more. It’s truly amazing to have such emotional growth! Alongside that, the biggest challenge I find is making time to remember who I am – before being a mother – and making time to fill HER cup (so to speak). Working has been super helpful in forcing me to carve out time for ME, and has spun off into other areas of my life, like fitness, activities with friends, etc.