Rachel

WHAT HAS BEEN THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE OF YOUR MOTHERHOOD JOURNEY?

I’ve struggled a bit with motherhood.  My ex partner and I were starting to be at odds.  There was some verbal abuse.  My hormones + exhaustion was hard to deal with after being someone who was happy to work 18 hours a day (chef, nutritionist, media and host).  Then i was alone for a lot of it, going to appts solo, moved across the world for his business and too much isolation + not enough “it takes a village”.  I want to share with others that WE get this beautiful mini human at the end of the road BUT if you’re not a glowing + perfect pregnant woman that’s okay too! At 8 months pregnant I’m finally more secure in my pregnancy.  I’m sure it would have been different had I had a more involved/supportive husband.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU OFFER TO WOMEN WHO FIND THEMSELVES IN A SIMILAR SITUATION?

Listen to your gut.  A child doesn’t make life easier.  Bring you closer.   Make him nicer.  More in love.   More communicative.  It can push people further apart.  And there’s zero bitterness - I STILL believe in love + marriage, I just fell for a very convincing human that was more about control rather than family and building a future.



WHAT IS THE BEST PIECE OF MOTHERHOOD ADVICE YOU HAVE RECEIVED?

Stop reading all the books.   Trust your gut.  Talk to moms.   Get a lactation specialist.   Trust that you will f up but that’s part of the amazing journey.  And ask for help.  My ex has cleared the accounts + lives across the world so it’s me.  And my friends/family helping me.    So I’m technically starting over at 8 months pregnant.  Ha BUT THE UNIVERSE GIVES YOU ONLY WHAT you can handle. 

WHAT RESOURCES HAVE HELPED YOU DURING YOUR PREGNANCY?

REBEL MAMAS.  And close + new friends that ahve just had babies themselves.  My friends that are family.  Also “Parenting the sh*t out of Life” such a good read.

WHAT SPECIAL MOMENTS ARE YOU CHERISHING?

I’m nervous for birth.  And the potential of PPD.  But again going to trust the process.  Also feeling him move around and him feeling the love i have for him. 

WHAT ASPECT OF MOTHERHOOD FRIGHTENS YOU THE MOST RIGHT NOW?

Being alone.  A tad isolaeld + not having a safety net or a partner.  BUT I will push forward.  Feel the feels.  Ask for help.  AND hope that I end up being a kickass mama. 

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE YOU FACE / OR YOU FEEL WOMEN FACE IN REGARDS TO MOTHERHOOD?


I think career + balance will be something I struggle with.  I’ve always been in school, building a concept, touring for work or in the public eye/helping others.  I think taking a break + then finding my way back but with a twist will be a large challenge that I am facing/will face.