Ashley

WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO A FIRST TIME MOTHER?

My advice to any first time mom is to trust your new instincts as a mother. You know your child better than anyone. I would also add, to be selective when accepting other mothers/grandmothers/friends advice when it comes to parenting. I’m sure they all have your best interests however, every family and child is unique and their way isn’t always the best way for you and your family.

WHAT FRIGHTENS YOU MOST ABOUT MOTHERHOOD?

What frightens me the most about being a mother is a) losing a child and b) not doing a good job as a mom.

WHAT IS YOUR FONDEST MEMORY OF YOUR GRANDMOTHER?

My fondest memories would be my great grandmother singing songs to me and my sister. She’d rock us back and forth in her rocking chair and do her best to sing us her favorites.
I am looking forward to making special memories with my kids. Not only with travelling and sharing experiences as a family but, the day to day memories like playing in their rooms and reading books, making up stories and making forts. I truly think they remember just being with you the most.

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PARENTING STYLE?

I feel as though I parent similar to my mother in most ways with discipline (not too harsh but not too soft).My parenting style is hard to define. I feel like I am a mixture of many types. I am laid back about certain things, while anxious about other things. I’m mostly anxious when the kids are sick because my biggest fear of being a mom, is my child in any kind of discomfort. I’m laid back however, about my kids being outdoors and letting kids be kids and this is probably because of how I grew up. Always outside!

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE YOU FACE IN REGARDS TO MOTHERHOOD?

My biggest challenge that I’ve faced personally as a mom is the “mom guilt”. I still deal with this daily. Especially in today’s day and age, with social media weighing so heavy on our every move. We feel pressured as moms to be “perfect” or to strive for it. This is not achievable and it’s a shame that we spend so much time worrying about this instead of just enjoying the moments (good and bad).
I also struggle with balancing work and motherhood and this relates back to the mom guilt a bit. You feel bad for working late or you feel bad for missing work to be with the kids. The mental workload we carry these days is also a huge part of the balance. Us moms tend to take on most of the mental load and work at the same time which makes it hard for self-care and time spent on yourself because “ain’t nobody got time for that” lol but one day, I will have all the time in the world and I will miss all of it. So until then, I take it day by day.