WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOUR GIVE TO A FIRST TIME MOTHER?
As you embark on this journey remember you are amazing and take time to enjoy the snuggles and late night wake ups as they don’t stay little for long.
WHAT IS YOUR FONDEST MEMORY OF YOUR OWN MOTHER?
My fondest memory with own mother was December 11, 2000.
On this day I became a mother, and my number one fan Shelly Sousa was there by my side cheering me on. It’s something I can share with her forever. She’s strong and super supportive, and never once turned her back on me when we discovered that I was going to be a teenage mom.
HOW DO YOU FIND BALANCE?
I don’t really have a balance - I find that we have a daily routine and that seems to work for us. In this day and age you sometimes just have to go with the flow. Embrace the last minute changes.
HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR PARENTING STYLE?
I am not sure I have a parenting style - I have 2 children on 2 completely different life levels.
I have a daughter in university, living 6 hours away, and a son in grade 5. I seem to make sure Iler has structure and a routine. As for Madi I just support her decisions - when I feel they are good ones, and am not shy to share with her when she does things I disagree with, Even when she doesn’t want to hear it ... lol
WHAT IS ONE OF THE MOST FRIGHTENING MOMENTS YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED IN MOTHERHOOD?
The most Frightening stage for me was saying goodbye to Madi In September. Driving her 6 hours away to Ottawa for her to live her dream of going to University. The thought of her not coming home every night, eating dinner with us as a family of 4 daily broke my heart. We are beyond excited and proud for her to begin her future, but honestly I am selfish and would love it to not be 6 hours away! It’s still a daily challenge for me.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IS THE GREATEST CHALLENGE FACING MOTHERS?
The biggest struggle is being judged.
People don’t understand everyone else’s journey. There is no text book that can prepare you for motherhood that will answer all your questions. What works in our home may not work in your home. Struggles Iler or other children have are not always openly discussed. No one is perfect and everyone is learning. Learning what works best for THEM.
When I became a first time mom I was 18, not graduated high school and madly in love with my now husband, we had no idea where we would end up as parents, but knew we loved each other and would do anything to make it work! I wish I was able to tell myself to not listen to the negative people and to continue to do what was best for us